Princess Bride

This summer several couples who have been married at Foothills Chapel have come by just to visit. One couple was celebrating their anniversary, another brought their six year old daughter to show her where their wedding was. She was enchanted and walked down the aisle, imitating the wedding video her Mom had shown her!

Just did a wedding for a bride whose Mom died two months ago. Many tears as she lay a rose on the front pew in her memory. I misted up a bit too, thinking of my mother, who passed away earlier this year as well. Something always connects us, even if sometimes it is grief.

Find what you're looking for

Look for meanness and you'll find it. Look for beauty and you'll find that too. What do you look for in your fiance or spouse? Look for flaws and you'll find plenty to criticize. I'm not encouraging blindness or wearing rose colored glasses, but remember the power of our minds to see what we want to see... if we look for what is lovable, we'll find plenty is there to find! Keep this in mind not only as you plan your wedding but in the years to come.

Flower Boy and Girl ringbearer

At one wedding the six year old boy really really wanted to toss the flowers so the girl became the ringbearer. Enlightened parents, enlightened couple!

I petted a hummingbird at a wedding

Just before an outdoor wedding was to begin, a hummingbird flew right by me. oth the bird and I suddenly got totally quiet, and I moved my finger towards it and petted it six times. Soft as, well, a feather, and delicate as a mountain wildflower. Then it flew off. Needless to say I was extra inspired performing that wedding. I never dreamed I could pet a hummingbird!

Flower Girl Blows Kisses

Last week I did a wedding where the six year old floower girl held a basket of flowers and blew kisses at everyone while walking down the aisle. I've officiated at thousands of weddings but people come up with new and unique ideas all the time! Rev Chris Mohr, Foothills Chapel, Golden Colorado (near Denver).

Respond With Love

Love is who we are. God is Love, and we are made in the image of God as Love. Marriage is an incredible opportunity to bring love into our day to day lives. Try it sometime. The next time an old argument is flaring up again, or you feel frustration with your spouse or fiance, ask yourself how Love wants to respond. Jesus said to love your enemy, to fight hatred with Love. Sri Poonjaji said, "Love all, no matter what, love all, it will win all battles."

Your sweetheart is not your enemy, and a marital tiff is not a battle... or is it? In the moment you let a little thing get in the way of love, you position yourself in opposition and try to win... to defeat your "enemy," the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with.

Try it once in a while. Take a deep breath and surrender into love. Right in the middle of a fight, just stop. What is Love saying? It's a quieter voice so you have to listen very carefully. But Love melts our hardened shells and invites us to a place beyond right and wrong, where nothing needs to be fixed and nothing is won or lost. It seems to leave us vulnerable but it is the source of our greatest strength, for it is, at the core of our being, who we are. Who seems more confident and self-assured, someone who bickers and picks fights or someone who radiates a calm and loving presence?